Before anyone’s panties get in a bunch about me using “the n-word,” I obviously don’t use it often, if ever. Most people these days use it obtusely or offensively. There is a difference between collective vs owned. Like bitches vs my bitch. Shit in general vs my shit.
The way nigger/nigga/etc is thrown around these days, i hate to use the word at all, no matter how it’s spelled/pronounced. Trust me, no matter how it’s said, what matters is how you use it. It’s disrespectful, if you haven’t earned your stripes.
You can’t go up to a Marine and call him a jarhead unless you earned that jarhead’s respect. Just try it. Let me know how it goes, assuming your windpipe isnt crushed.
In Japanese, being called gaijin can, in rare cases, be used as a term of acceptance of an outsider. Most often, it denotes an unwelcome “guest,” like the Mexican gringo. Non-natives can self-assign whatever they want to borrowed terms, but introduce yourself as such to the indigenous, and see how they react?
OGs used Nigger like water. It has nothing to do with elocution. Go back and watch 70s/80s Blaxploitation flicks. Or any standup by Redd Foxx, Eddie Murphy, Richard Pryor, Paul Mooney, Pat Morita (yep, Mr Miyagi), Cheech Marin, Bill Cosby, etc. They have the cred to pull it off. Do you?
My Nigga! That’s the brother who has my back like i got his. “Down for whateva” isn’t a cliché, it’s a tested promise. I’ll answer the phone at 3am, saying “Of course, I got you” no questions asked. It’s a very small circle. One is Mexican, another is White. Neither are comfortable with the title, but appreciate the tremendous respect it grants them in this tight circle of color. They more than earned it. Time and again. I am my brothers’ keeper. And they are mine. Publicly, they are all my brothers, and i introduce them as such. But in our element, i greet them like they greet me. Even then, we don’t call eachother out like that, except on rare occasions of importance. Some use it like water. I use it like water in the desert drought.
I don’t get why anyone not Black wants to use “the n-word.” I have no desire to be called gringo or gaijin, or any other other apprpriated term. Why would i want a tribal tattoo when i do not belong to a tribe? Or a Chinese character for “strength?” Wouldn’t it seem ignorant for me to call my best friend my Limey? My girlfriend my puta? Why would i want to come across as a wannabe?
I really don’t like Black folk I dont know using nigga around me. They don’t appreciate the power of the word, its history and impact. It’s just slang. Flava Flav said it best. It just gets wierder for me when non-Blacks throw it around. “Why can’t i use it? Because i am White?” My response is bitches call eachother bitches all day. As a non-bitch, would you call your mother a bitch? That’s why.