If i shun the advances of a gay male, does that make me homophobic? If i turn down a White girl, because she is White, does that make me racist?
Sexual preference is just that. A preference. It is a very personal preference, i might add. Who you kiss should be mutually agreed upon.
I have not knowingly dated or slept with a trans woman. I am not even sure what my reaction would be, to be honest. If I can’t tell the difference, then i almost don’t even care. Like sex, kissing depends on the individual situation. But damn if i let social pressures determine my personal choices.
This isnt about discrimination. Who we we canoodle with is separate from our public lives. I am a bonafide cis heterosexual male who has no problems working, living, socializing, serving, sharing a taxi with any other form of human beings. Which in turn has nothing to do with who i fantasize about getting naked with.
My concept of gender identity is simple. If you can use a urinal, you are a male. If not, you’re a female. In that context, i am not even sure why we need a non-binary/other.
This may make me transphobic. I own that. But it isn’t a fear phobia. It’s just a label assigned to me. My position comes purely from ignorance and inexperience, not fear or hatred. I am always down to learn about other cultures and topics, but for now, i am an ignorant outsider.