There is something viral about agony. When we hurt, the first thing we instinctively do is lash out. Ever tried to treat an animal, just after its injured? Even though you’re trying to help, it will retaliate against you as if you were the one that harmed it in the first place. A traumatized human being is no different. Whenever we suffer more than we can handle, our intellectual higher functions shut down and give way to more primal instincts of self-preservation. At our core, we reflect what we feel. If we feel pain, we reflect it and inflict anyone within reach.
Even on a more sublime level, if someone insults you, knowingly or otherwise, if someone wounds your ego, if someone offended you, your basic instinct is to return the favor. Our more evolved higher functions, our learned programming, tells us that there are better ways to handle haters, if we listen to our voice of reason.
The deeper the pain, the more painfully we respond. Some people have thicker skin than others, better thresholds for pain. But we all feel the pain. It’s just the matter of how we deal with the pain.
Evolution has blessed us with rational thinking. Generationally, our species gets smarter with every new lesson learned. An enlightened mind can break the instinct model, and think “I am in pain. I must deal with that pain, without blindly afflicting it onto others.” Not an easy thought process when you’re actually in pain, but the sooner you can, the better off you will be.
There is a lot of pain in our world today. A lot of hurt people hurting others. Often intentionally, sometimes unknowingly.
We all are very conscious of what we are receiving from the world. Are we as conscious of what we are putting back into the world?
Pain is contagious, even viral. You cant avoid pain, but how you manage it will determine how you will recover from it. Doesn’t matter if its a broken bone or a broken heart. So be mindful of how you spread your own hurt upon others.