Anytime someone tries to lecture me or give me advice on how to be more popular, I tune out. Blank look and all.
It’s no secret: I’m not here to win any popularity contests. I don’t need more Facebook friends. I don’t feel I need to become more approachable or likable. I just want to be 100% me. There will be very few people who gravitate towards that. I like how that works, because getting to know me is the most proven way for me to filter out the people who do not need to be in my life. online or in realtime.
When it comes to marketing a business or an event, I’m a whole different beast. I have been involved in marketing campaigns longer than many of you have been on the internet. In some cases, longer than some of you have even been alive.
But when it comes to my personal life, and my personal page, I’m not trying to attract the masses. Sociopolitically-speaking, I’m only trying to reach open minds, those people who are intrigued with what I have to say and either want to learn more about it, chew on it, or test its merit.
Popularity has little to do with truth. In fact, to be popular, you have to ignore or denounce factual truths to prove your populist loyalty. You have to ignore or attach any point that is in contradiction to your popularity. Obama supporters don’t want to talk about his influence on oil pipelines and those protesting their construction. Or how much fracking has exploded under his administration. Trump supporters will have nothing to do with Trump University, or the seven bankruptcies, etc. Most of the topics I post here and in my own blog, are usually topics the vast majority ignores in daily discussion. I bring them up not to be controversial or contrary, but because I feel that they are issues that are still relevant to us, even if they’re not very popular.
I cannot tell you how many times i get “man, I loved that one post about X, and wanted to share it, but then you brought up Y and Z.” which is usually followed by “Y and Z had nothing to do with X” or “I almost unfriended you for that.”
Because of that, the overwhelming majority of my posts get very few reactions or comments, despite being frequent reads. I’m totally okay with that. If I wanted to create a bandwagon, or get a hair up everybody’s ass, I know how to do it. It’s very easy. I just take one of my moderate viewpoints, cut out one side of it, and heavily exaggerate the remaining side, while answering my own questions. Every time I do that, everyone seems to voice their own opinions either way. But those are usually either relentless patronizing or unnecessary arguing. I’m not a fan of either.
Being open-minded does not mean you have to live in a closet. Questioning both sides of an argument isn’t a great way to be popular, but it’s a great way to seek truth. Have the courage to think for yourselves, and don’t let the headlines think for you.
I don’t want to be popular. I don’t even want to be right. I want to be honest, and I want to learn. Even if it means testing what I already know from time to time. I don’t mind the criticism. I do mind the notion that I should change, and I am especially bothered by the notion that I should conform, purely for the psychological comfort of others. If the building is on fire, if the boat is sinking, if the driver is asleep at the wheel, the last thing in the world I want you to be is comfortable.
Is #IAmWhateverYouSayIAm too long of a hashtag? If not, I plan on using it for anyone who wants to judge me online.