Big fucking deal. If any of my White friends, coworkers, or even strangers did this to me, I would long-side-eye you, before accepting the apology, with the understanding that it will NEVER happen again, and let’s go squash this over drinks. Of course, you’re buying, Racy McRacist. I’ll still tip.
In my opinion, this would dismantle more racism in America than trying to make people Facebook famous.
I hear people say offensive crap all day, every day. It’s not offensive to them, of course, but it would be offensive to any outsider who happens to overhear. Even among my close friends. The way we talk about political opponents on a regular basis would be unconscionably offensive if we use the same tone in a racial or sexist context. We have this notion that it’s not actually offensive when no one hearing it is actually offended. It’s a quaint way of glossing over our own personal prejudices. The way we talk about skanky hoes when women aren’t around. Or the way we balk at those smelly “A-rabs” AFTER we get out of the taxi cab. We may have gay friends, but that doesn’t stop us from telling our best friends to stop acting like a fudge packer whenever they’re whining about anything. And who doesn’t want to put Millenials out of their entitled misery, besides Millenials? It’s THE reason why White people talk differently about race when Black people are in the room. The same way Black people talk differently about White people when they aren’t in the room. The way we don’t talk about our bosses or coworkers while we’re at work, because we don’t want to get fired. “Chill out. We don’t mean anything by it. It’s just talk. I’m not prejudiced.” There isn’t a person alive who hasn’t had to say this at some point to someone else looking at them warily.
So when someone slips around me, as long as they immediately apologize, and try to atone for it, I’m good for getting past it, the first time around.
If there is a second time, I’d have to write a completely different post about that reaction.
The only way to conquer hate is with love. A United America requires building bridges, not walls. We have to make friends of enemies, not the other way around. Sometimes, you just have to show uncool people what being cool is really all about.
Georgia Southern University Courtney Schaefer accidentally texted her future roommate the n-word but claimed she meant to write ‘triggerish’ to their other roommate.